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Dear Erica,

It’s me (you…duh). It’s February 2017, what a year you had! Right from the jump, 2016 put you to the test. I know that you were still struggling trying to find your way. It’s no small task to be a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend all while holding down a full-time job, and two businesses that you want to pour your heart and soul into. On top of that, you have spent an immense amount of time working on your self-development. I know you thought it was a total load when you first started. There were some books that made you wonder what the hell you were trying to accomplish, and others hit you right where it hurts, and more than once. Just in case you don’t remember, here are a few of your favorites:

  • “Argue for your limitations and you get to keep them.” Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic
  • “If you aren’t in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.” Brene Brown
  • “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do. Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
  • “If we want to know what to do when it matters most, we’ve got to be committed to showing up to practice.” Lysa Terkeurst, The Best Yes
  • “I am learning everyday to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me, not terrify me.” Tracee Ross Ellis

The last few years have been such a time of growth for you and I know you’re proud of where you are, even though each day can still present it’s own struggle, some old – some new. And the idea is that you will always be “in progress”, which is not a bad thing. I know that you used to struggle with how you looked and who you really were. Times have really changed. I know that you used to be so focused on that “number” that you couldn’t even begin to appreciate all the amazing things that your body has accomplished. You have birthed two babies via cesarean delivery, with minimal downtime for recovery. You have figured out that moving your body is what makes it feel and look good. Grown from a self-proclaimed, lazy/corner cutting high school athlete to a more conditioned, stronger, badass mama who has run 4 half-marathons, completed 3 Tough Mudders, strengthened your squat, bench press and deadlift heavier than you thought possible and now appreciate all the curves that your muscles have built. You have finally come to terms with the fact that no matter how fit you are, those thick thighs are something to be proud of – they push a lot of weight and carry you on all your adventures.

You are looking forward to the future, instead of recounting all your past mistakes. You have forgiven yourself for the way that you treated yourself when in a binge, or any self-sabotaging behavior. You have continued to put yourself out there with your business ventures; volunteering more and contributing to the community that you love. You have learned that balance is kind of like a mythical, mystical creature that everyone wants to capture but no one really ever has. You understand that “balance” as it was once thought to you is really more about fulfilling obligations that you have made (and by that I mean, if you’re paid to do a job, you do it AND do it well) but ALSO keeping your word to yourself. Making time for the things that matter most to you, you’re not waiting for it to happen any longer, you’re getting after it yourself. That’s huge!

With all this self-love, one of your biggest accomplishments of 2016 is finally letting go of the nagging thoughts in your head about what other people think. It’s been a long, 30+year road but you have finally arrived! It’s not to say you don’t value others opinions, but now you can discern what’s really being said and the intent with which it’s being said. You don’t suffer any longer from the disease to please, so you can happily say “that’s interesting, it’s not how I see it but thanks for your input” and not wrap that up and internalize it to fester and cloud your own opinions and judgments.

So, I guess what I’m trying to say is, you’ve come a long way baby! I hope 2017 is even more than you can imagine. Keep challenging yourself, you will never be sorry about that.

Friends of the Trend Addictions blog,

If you read this far, you my friends are rockstars! If you’re wondering why the hell I’m talking to myself, it’s because I have found the value in it. Have you ever written a letter to your future self? I have done it twice now as an exercise to help focus my dreams. Remember, the more you speak life into them, the more likely the are to come true. The same goes for writing things down. Did you know writing things down makes them 300-times more likely to happen? (Disclaimer: I may have made up the actual number, but it’s still true, I read it in another blog…lol.) So, here’s the bonus reason you want to give this exercise a try, I’m giving away a gift card! I really, really, really want to share the love (even though V-day is over). So, I challenge you to step out of your comfort zone and write yourself a letter dated one year from now. Tell yourself about all the positive things you’ve accomplished, overcome and where you’re headed next. Then, if you want to be entered in our giveaway, email it to me at so that we can pick a winner!
The winner will be announced in another blog later this month, with another fitness freebie! We are celebrating self-love, and heart health in February! Can’t wait to hear from you!

Love, Erica.

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